Sex positions for gay men

I would also recommend this only if the bottom has a flexible back. It just means you went too quickly and need more lube and/or foreplay. This also allows the bottom to be a little more submissive.

PROS/CONS

Because most penises are either straight or curve upwards, it can be difficult to achieve prostate stimulation in this position because the angulation of the penis will most likely be towards the bottom’s tailbone, which is opposite from the prostate.

As a result, the bottom can potential experience posterior pelvic pain this way because the penis may be repetitively hitting a wall.

One tip in this position is for the bottom to arch their back and adjust where they are on the penis to make sure it’s as direct a hit to their pleasure zones as possible.

While the bottom is technically in control in this position, because they’re not looking at their partner, it can be more challenging to read visual cues and to communicate.

I like this anal sex position because it challenges bottoms to learn about their pelvis and can help them tap into other pleasure (and limitation) zones, outside of their prostate.

MISSIONARY

This position can be as vanilla or as passionate as you want and it’s especially great for those who enjoy kissing and eye contact.

It’s a signal from your body to slow down, use more lube or stop altogether. If not yet, we have the answers for you. By understanding top and bottom power dynamics, gay men can better understand their sexual preferences and find compatible partners.

So, who is a top or a bottom in queer relationships? The elements you choose will come down to your diet, anatomy and personal preference.

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At minimum, go to the bathroom and get everything “out”.

Also, since not all couples are the same height, you can use props (like sex pillows) to adjust the height of the bottom for easier, more direct penetration.

PROS/CONS

This is definitely a more top-dominant position, which means it’s a great position to graduate to after cowboy once the bottom feels comfortable with variations in speed and depth of penetration as they will have less control over this.

The bottom should adjust their pelvic angle (by opening or closing it) so that the top can have a more direct entry into their anal canal.

It will spice up your bed moment. If you start slowly, breathe and focus on relaxing your muscles down there, it should gradually feel better.

In general, bottoming can be a confusing sensation for your body. The curvature of the top’s penis is key here as this position can feel very different for both parties than traditional cowboy.

This allows for a level of intimacy and closeness that can be hard to find in other positions. This means it’s extra stimulating for both the top and the bottom.

PROS/CONS

Your maneuvers as the bottom are key here and should be gradual, until you’ve found the right position, and then you can be more aggressive.

It’s key to maintain slow thrusting in this position, otherwise the penis can break if not careful.

This can be uncomfortable for the top because of limitations of the bottom’s pelvic angle.

For both parties, it may be harder to achieve the pleasures you want if the top’s penis curves up or is rigid.

BUMPER CARS

This is as complicated as it looks.

During the missionary position, the bottoms lie down on their back and spread their legs at an angle that will allow the top to penetrate them from the front.

It is the best sex position during sex because as you and your mate are face-to-face, it enables you to kiss, connect, and even have wild, dirty sex talk with your lover. Once the bottom feels comfortable, they can go even deeper (pun intended) by crouching down while on top, allowing them to actively ride and fully bear down on their partner.

Both partners lay on their sides, with the top on the outside as the big spoon and penetrating the bottom from behind. Get out there and experiment!

Last Updated: 

July 26, 2024